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Opportune Moments

It seems to me like the pace of time is speeding up, and I’m slowing down.  I remember my parents telling me how fast time was going by; and I remember telling my kids the same thing as they grew up, actually pleading with them to NOT grow up so fast.  But as youth, especially in the early years, a day seemed to last forever.

As recently, it seems, as a few years ago, there was more time for ad hock moments to change course in the day’s activities and do something spur of the moment.  Is it just me or are these moments harder to find, and even harder to steal?

I recently had the opportunity to spend a little time with our grandchildren.  I helped a granddaughter with her homework (I can still do 6 year old math) and I was able to sit and watch my youngest grandson eat an ear of corn. corn-eater_newb I wasn’t going anywhere; we didn’t have to leave for the airport for a few hours, so my time was totally theirs and I enjoyed every minute of it. 

 This picture of my youngest grandson eating this ear of corn is what prompted this entry; his ability to enjoy the opportunity before him without being distracted.  He has very few teeth, but I’ve never seen anyone suck down an ear of corn more completely.  If he were 80 years old, toothless and homeless, he would not starve for lack of trying.corn-eater_retired

 This picture of my wife’s father was taken last year; he is retired and can enjoy the same focus on meaningful things that my grandson can.  It is the time between youth and retirement that we must improve upon.sleeping-in-the-shower

This picture is of my youngest granddaughter who was tired, so decided while taking a shower to just take a nap-on the spot.  Don’t you love the spontaneity?

Oh the lessons children teach us.  To be as a little child in many aspects of our adult life would make us so much the better.  Here are some things  I learned from this trip:

1. When children are with family, NOTHING else matters.

2. Children are able to partake of the moment without distractions such as smart phones.

3. They are able to love unconditionally for the most part; they look past our foibles and accept us for who we are.

4. A child enjoys the simple pleasures of life and is not bothered by little things such as clean utensils. Nothing wrong with clean utensils, but you get the point. As my pioneer neighbor taught my wife and me “Don’t let the little things bother you”.

As we mature in life, we get so distracted with the many things we have burdened ourselves with, that we lack meaningful focus on opportunities that are passing before our eyes.  We better slow down and grab some of these moments.  Like our parents said before us and as we now say, time is speeding up and there is less of it!  I say we make the most of it!

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Posted by on September 16, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Re-Think

I was recently getting my daughter set up at college, where my wife and I were assisting in finding an apartment.  For a Dad, it is a matter of safety and  the apartment needs to be clean, convenient, and affordable.

After comparing the available options, we decided upon a place, and felt good enough about it to put down a deposit.  So that evening we were driving back to our hotel, and Ginger turns to me and says “I’m thinking the other apartment might be better”.

Now for those of you who know me well, I have no trouble making a decision- though it may take some days to ponder.  Once I make a decision, it’s usually donePeriod.  So I respond in a tone I would later ask forgiveness of, “I can’t believe after spending an entire day on this, you would even question this decision.”  I set my jaw and got “that look” in my eye.  And then, a slightly elevated conversation ensued.  It went on for about 25 miles!

In this process, I discovered that it’s really okay to “Re-Think” decisions after they are made.  Full light and knowledge doesn’t come just once in a life time!  Occasionally, I am wrong- perhaps even more frequently than that- so a re-think should not be out of the question.

So what causes one to avoid the re-thinking process?  In my case it is 1) Time:  I don’t like to waste a second of time, so having to re-think is time consuming.  2) Pride:  I don’t like to be wrong, so to re-think suggests the first decision arrived at was not the best.  3) Stupidity:  I really don’t think I’m dumb, but not considering all available options, even after a decision is made, can be stupid.

And of course, being the “cultural guru” that I am, during the course of this process my wife reminded me of things such as transparency, healthy debate, and so forth.

Well, we let the original apartment go, and went with choice number two.  Turned out is did save a ton of money, put my daughter closer to the school, and provided a safe environment for her to abide.  Also turns out, my wife was right.

Suggestions from this experience include:1) Don’t “Set your jaw” to solid after a decision has been made.  2) Allow for options to unfold and don’t be defensive when they are suggested.  3) There is usually not just one idea or solution, there are good, better, and best ones.  4) Allow the opportunity to Re-Think, and enjoy the fruits of even better solutions.

 
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Posted by on September 1, 2011 in Uncategorized